For the bereaved parent who is producing milk but does not have a baby to feed

For the friend or relative who wants to find resources for a loved one who has lost a baby

For the doctor, nurse, or social worker supporting a bereaved family with lactation

I have compiled resources to help with decisions surrounding human milk and breast/chest care.

I am sorry you have found yourself in need of this information.

You are not alone in this impossibly difficult time.

Families who are navigating the loss of an infant deserve gentle information about caring for their lactating body and options for what to do with their milk.

Stories of loss are all so unique. Some parents lose a baby during pregnancy, some give birth to a baby who is born with no heartbeat, some say goodbye to an older infant, some have given up a baby to adoption or are separated due to incarceration.

Something many grieving parents hold in common is the experience of making milk or having milk that was previously stored for a baby and the many decisions and questions about what to do with this milk and caring for a lactating body.

Stories from Bereaved Families

Content warning: Here families have shared their stories for you to read, please take care of yourself and decide if you are ready to interact with others’ stories at this time.

We want to hear your story too,
please reach out.

  • Baby Raspberry

    I became a mother with my son Raspberry who was born still at 38 weeks...

  • Abby

    “How much milk are you producing when you pump these days?” I asked my friend…

  • Molly

    After my son was stillborn at 32 weeks, my milk came in right away…

  • Baby Alice

    What I did want to follow up on is how our year anniversary went...